Following on from a previous article, ‘Stop moaning and be grateful‘, here’s a list of some nice, easy things you can try. Why not introduce one a day for the next week? Drop me an email or leave a comment below to let me know how you got on.
1. Enlist a pal
Just like going to the gym, you’ll be far more effective and committed if you’ve got a friend looking over your shoulder. You could discuss the aspects of your life which you’re thankful for. You can lift one another up on those days where it seems there are fewer things to be grateful for.
2. Keep a gratitude journal
This will help reinforce the good things in your life. Each day, note down two or three things that you’re grateful for. They can be the big things like health and family, or the smaller things, like the taste of this morning’s coffee. If you have more than two or three, that’s excellent. Well done. Be grateful for having so many positive things in your life.
3. Check your language
How are you? Not bad.
Sound familiar? How about responding with, ‘great’?
We all filter the situations around us and how we process and then project those situations will ultimately have a bearing on how happy we are. I’m sure you’ll have noticed people around you who are always happy with a positive outlook on life. It doesn’t mean that they have an easier life than you. They’re just projecting in a positive fashion and seeing the best in their situation. It’s not always easy, but it can help. Be grateful for what you have rather than disappointed with what you don’t have.
4. Step back
Spend a few minutes just thinking about the good things in your life. Maybe take yourself off for a short walk to blow away the cobwebs. Spend the time indulging in your own little world. Remove the stresses from your thoughts and consider what you have to be thankful for. It’ll help with your journal as well!
5. Thank someone
That’s right, the best way of feeling good about yourself is to make someone else feel valued. Are you a manager? Thank your team. Are you someone’s son? Thank your mother. We all lead busy lives and it can be so easy to forget those around us. You know what they do means a lot to you, but they might not. Demonstrating your gratitude will have the knock on effect of bolstering your own image – people will feel valued by you, and so they’ll be drawn to you. They’ll probably appreciate you a lot more as well. Go on, drop someone an email saying thank you.
What better way to show your gratitude for the good things in your life than giving something back? This can take any form you like, from helping the elderly lady down the road do her shopping to signing up with a local community project. You could even just go on a spree of carrying out ‘random acts of kindness’. Try it and see how it makes you feel. Obviously, if you encounter someone who randomly helps you, be sure to thank them and show your gratitude!
7. Make a list
There are always going to be aspects of our lives that we aren’t happy with. That job of yours, you know, the one where your boss is a bit of a mind-controlling bully and your peers spend all day moaning. Or similar. Yeah, gratitude is a bit difficult here, isn’t it? Well, worry not. Get a pen and paper. Draw a line down the middle. On the left, write the word positive and on the right, write the word negative. For each thing you write in the negative column, try your hardest to think of something to put in the positive column. It can be really small. Your shitty job enables you to buy a Magnum as a treat on a Friday, for instance.
Hopefully, these small tasks should bring a little glimmer of gratitude into your life each day. It might also prompt thoughts about what you might like to change in your life. This is not a bad thing. Embrace it. Let me know how you get on.