Many people hate their job. Or at least they think they do.
I discussed what to do if you hate your job in a recent post. I got some feedback from people questioning why a coach might suggest that the possibility of working out how to re-like the role you’re in was a viable option. After all, people seeking the support of a coach are, by definition, forward-thinking and eager to make changes. Finding a new job or new career and moving forward in any way takes energy, positivity, drive and focus. What if you could arrive at your real goal – happiness, comfort, challenge? – without having to expend all that energy? This in itself demonstrates the importance of setting yourself the right goals.
If our current role is dragging us down and making life unhappy, we might think that out goal is to ‘get a new job’. In reality, that might simply be an option. Our state of mind definitely determines the results we get. It might cloud our thought processes and lead us into decisions that might not be the most preferable.
So what can we do? Get yourself into a place where you can think clearly. Switch off. Clear the decks. Indulge yourself. Reflect upon, review your feelings and take some space to see what your views are away from the potentially negative work environment.
Seven steps to making your current role bearable
1. I’ve mentioned this in a previous post. Get your notebook out and make some lists. Be open and honest when you do this. Write down what’s working for you and what isn’t.
2. Write down your current situation from your perspective and then from the opposing perspective. How many hours a week are you working, including working at home, checking emails etc. Get it all down. Be honest and objective. Try not to get bogged down with that day you had that argument with your boss who hasn’t got a clue what you do anyway.
3. What are you doing to make sure you have time to do the things you love? Do you have enough time for hobbies, friends, exercise, etc.? Make a commitment to do these things and spend some time working out how to fit them into your weekly schedule.
4. When thinking of your free time, think of three things you could be doing that would improve your current situation e.g. you could commit to leaving work on time, making sure you have a proper lunch break, spend you lunch running or at the gym, varying what you do after work, etc. Ask yourself, what you need to do to take action on these now? Can you? Will you? Make a commitment and determine a way in which you can be sure you’ll follow up on that commitment.
5. I use Google Calendar, but you can use whatever works for you. Compile your weekly work schedule and decide on how many nights you ideally want to work late which also allows you the space in which to do the other things you want to do. If leaving on a time is a challenge for your, make sure to schedule something solid. For example, a meeting with friends, a class etc. Make sure you stick to it.
6. Commit to turning off your work email, phone, etc. when you leave work and at weekends. The temptation to check can be great and you end up being sucked in. Before you know it, you’ve spent two hours replying to emails in which you could have done something really fun.
7. If any of these seem like big steps, then start small. For example, if you usually skip lunch, set your alarm for ‘lunchtime’ and get up and go for a ten minute walk outside.
You can explore more ways in which you can get more balance in your life by working with a coach. You could turn around the job you’re currently in. Or, you might decide that you really do want to move on to your next challenge. Whatever it is, a coach will support you all the way.
If you’d like to have a chat about this, or anything else coaching-related, get in touch.